Promote people who do speak up ~ promote active listening
In NZ many people who do speak up are labelled as "activists", "protestors", "whingers", "Stirrers"
Those who do speak up are seen in a negative light.
We need to promote people to speak up
Conversely, we need to promote active listening
These need to be done repeatedly well so it becomes an accepted practice
As a people we need to see good role-models....that means we need to give people opportunities to practice
The media could step up too by doing a series about the protest movement in NZ and the good that has come from it
Because people need to see value in the good work done by activists
Once activism is seen in a positive light then we will see an increase in active participation
In the States they have a group called Better Arguments Project and they teach people to have better arguments https://betterarguments.org/
The Better Arguments Project is a national civic initiative created to help bridge divides – not by papering over those divides but by helping people have Better Arguments. In this sense, arguments don’t have to drive us apart. Better Arguments can bring us together. In partnership with communities and advisers around the country, we have synthesized three dimensions and five principles of a Better Argument.
Three Dimensions of Arguing BetterHistorical Context
Today’s civic arguments are rooted in history. Arguments- being able to reckon with differences and forge joint solutions are critical to a healthy American civic life.Emotional Intelligence
A Better Argument is one in which all participants use emotional intelligence, understanding why the other party is taking a certain stance, rather than immediately negating that party’s opinion.Recognizing Power
In many spaces of civil discourse, participants do not enter as equals and participants reckon with imbalances. A Better Argument requires being honest about power.
Five Principles of a Better Argument
Take Winning off the Table
Conventionally, parties enter an argument with a goal of winning, or at least reaching resolution. Instead, the goal of a Better Argument should be framed as the reinstitution of civility to build a common community.
Prioritize Relationships and Listen Passionately
A Better Argument places relationships at the center, and requires that all parties are truly listening to one another. Participants should listen to learn, not to win.
Pay Attention to Context
A Better Argument acknowledges culture. Understanding the presence of culture in any debate increases its accessibility. Better Arguments within a community should begin with specific questions relevant to that community.
In civic life today, many Americans only engage with circles that confirm their own worldviews. One major reason why this withdrawal occurs is because entering a space of argument means making yourself vulnerable.
Make Room to Transform
A Better Argument is a transformational experience for all involved. Without a goal of winning or even reaching resolution, the goal of a Better Argument becomes to change how we engage with one another in order to build a community. It’s easier to change someone else’s mind if you’re willing to have your own mind changed.
That is what we need here in NZ to learn how to have more effective arguments
Why the contribution is important
We need people who stand up and speak out
People need to feel safe to do this
To make effective arguments
To actively listen
We need to give people opportunities
We need to see active participation as an accepted practice
It would help if the media promoted this
by AdrianavanAltvorst on July 27, 2021 at 08:31PM